Dear Mom glaring at me, shaking your head and loudly expressing your displeasure. I’m so sorry I disrupted your day and you felt the need to judge me.
I am terribly sorry you felt sad for me and my children. I’m apologize that you happened to see a small window of my life and it depressed you and made you weep for my child’s lost childhood. I’m sorry you felt the need to say loudly, “Why doesn’t she get off of her phone”
Did I just say that out loud? Oops.
Yes, I’m talking to you, you know when you saw me at the park and thought you needed to shake your head in disbelief at me and concern yourself with my life while I was on the phone. Have we met before? Do you know my circumstances or what goes on in my day to day life? Why did you feel the need to Mom shame me?
Did you happen to think that maybe I was scanning through a few emails to follow up on an appointment or confirming my appointment for my youngest daughter with one of the multiple specialists she has to see. Or maybe I was looking at an email update for a dear family member of mine who is battling their second bout of Cancer in less then five years.
Dear Mom, did you know that I work from home and that I could have very possibly been looking at an email from a client that I had been waiting on to see if they accepted by business proposal. Possibly I could have been answering a text from my elderly Mother who may be needing me to do something for her. Or quite possibly Dear Mom, I could be replying to a message from a dear friend who recently lost a loved one. Lastly, I might have been reading the medical message from my doctor’s office that my biopsy came back NEGATIVE.
Dear Mom, You have absolutely no idea what I was looking at, at that exact moment, do you?
Did you happen to see me before I was on my phone? When I was talking to my oldest while watching my youngest play? Did you see me laughing and taking pictures of my children enjoying the sunshine?
I know the answer to that. The answer is NO. You only saw me for the few moments I was on my phone.
You saw my youngest jumping up and down trying to get my attention. Yep. I see it too. In fact, I’ve seen it all day and I’ll see it until the moment she falls asleep. The fact that I shout “Wow cool!” instead of clapping, dancing and embracing her while keeping eye contact shouldn’t be your biggest point. Really. Because I’ve already done that 200 times before you had a glimpse into my bubble.
But don’t let that stop you from focusing on the comparatively minuscule amount of time I was daring to multi-task while spending some time with my child.
Dear Mom glaring at me that feels they need to be watching out for the experience preservation of all children everywhere – you’re right. The few minutes I spent multi-tasking online while my kids had an awesome time at the park was so selfish and careless of me.
Dear Mom, you know maybe next time instead of feeling the need to concern yourself with how another Mom is acting, stop and think would you want another parent doing that to you? Would you want another parent to judge you based on that particular moment out of a 24 hour day? No? You don’t do you?
No? You don’t want someone doing that to you? Then why is it okay to do it to another Mom? Instead of Mom shaming, how about Mom embracing. Before you judge a fellow Mom, stop to think about how your day went.
Was your day perfect? Were you with your child 24/7? Did you multi-task at least once while spending time with your child? Did you ignore your home phone or cell phone all day long? No? Then why did you feel you needed to judge ME when I did.
Dear Mom, before you feel the need to say out loud, “Why doesn’t she get off of her phone”? lets remember that we are in this life together.
Ladies, we all know that some days are like clock work and are filled with good health, non-burnt meals, and projects and homework deadlines met on time. Then there are those days that are filled with children throwing up in the middle of the night, toast that is burnt and the famous statement of, “Mom, this project is due first thing tomorrow” at 9 pm at night.
So, since we are approaching Mother’s Day, instead of throwing each other under the bus, let’s encourage and uplift each other! My wish for you is that the coffee in your mug be warm and your days filled with chocolate!